Your Libido Postpartum: Lost That Loving Feeling?
If you've lost your libido postpartum, you're not alone. Here's how to get it back.
Sex. Does the mention of the word have you wondering whether it'll remain a distant memory? Lots of couples have trouble easing back into bed (except for sleeping) once a baby enters the picture. For one thing, you're both exhausted and for you, those crazy hormones may be dousing your desire, especially if you're nursing. You (and/or your husband) might also be afraid that sex will be painful for you or (maybe worse) that you'll get pregnant again! All this plus a total lack of privacy and time can add up to a whole lot of nothing when it comes to making love. What do you do?
First, calm down. This is normal, and it will pass. Start by opening a (nonconfrontational) dialogue with your man. Open communication goes a long way when it comes to building intimacy. Talk about how the two of you are feeling. It may help to schedule time together, working around the baby's schedule, of course. A romantic night out is great, but even taking an evening walk or sipping a glass of wine after the baby nods off will help you reconnect. And don't let other chores or obligations continually overshadow rekindling your sexual relationship. Hey, this is important, too!
Remember, you don't have to actually have sex to be intimate. Express your love (and desire) in other ways — hold hands, give him a back rub, cuddle on the couch, or kiss him like he's leaving for a week when he least expects it. And when you do make a stab at the actual act, lots of foreplay and lubrication will definitely help things go more smoothly.
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